In order to make peace between husband and wife, commending the strengths and respecting each other are more important than pointing out each other's faults and weaknesses. Even in times of conflict, you will be able to soften the hardened heart and anger more easily if you humble yourself and consider your spouse better than yourself. Inability to humble oneself because of pride, however, will lead to misunderstandings born of trivial matters, which in turn will shut down the person's heart and solidify and increase anger in it.
Therefore, regardless of whom you meet or come across, peace can be realized in interpersonal relationships not when you hope for others to adjust themselves to you, but when you adjust yourself to others first and seek to serve them.